I can tell you pretty directly what kind of people absolutely suck at having healthy relationships.
It shouldn’t be surprising.In fact, it’s so boring that I feel stupid typing it.
But, it bears mentioning… since 99% of the shit I see the monkeys throwing around the interwebs directly contradicts it.
Everyone is so focused on how bad modern men are, how bad modern women are… concern trolling about why we can’t have nice things.
I take a different tack.
I’m not worried in the slightest should calamity strike my wife or my marriage that I would end up fine in the dating market, despite all the terrible options out there.
And, I’m not concerned at all about developing another amazing relationship if I had to start it all over.
Maybe I’m naive. Maybe overconfident.
But probably not.
The truth is I know what I want, know what I deserve, and could give two fucks about whether some random girl texts me back or not.
In fact, I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t even try to go hook up a ton… because I know longer feel that trashy, anxiety-ridden women are worth even 5 minutes of an interaction with, let alone a lay. Commoditized sex not only lacks its appeal these days… it has become somewhat revolting.
Which means it would be very easy for me to sift through the garbage and date women who I can have elevated relations with.
Why, might you ask?
Because I will be polarizing what I want towards me, and pushing pretty much everything else away.
I’ll be operating from my instinct and values, not from my head.
People think dating is hard today because they are looking for a needle in a haystack… and don’t know what a needle even looks like.
So they take straw after straw in hand, seeing if each works like a needle should, and get jaded when they do not.
But the problem is as much them as the bad market.
They don’t know what they want, and most importantly, they don’t know what they’re willing to put up with.
My approach is different.
And it’s had quite a bit of success for my clients.
Become a magnet.
Magnets are powerful not only because of what they attract, but because of what they repel.
They save you the time of manually sorting through all the hay… especially if you get your magnet super-powered, so all the worthy candidates come directly to you.
That way, you can sort the actual needles… not the stuff you don’t need.
Simple, no?
But here’s the catch.
Finding out what you want isn’t easy.
Finding out what you care about, what you value, what sort of life and dynamic you want… suffice to say pretty much nobody knows what this is.
And it’s hard to blame them. Between parents, culture, religion, advertisements, entertainment… they have been told over and over again what they *should* want… and have been shunned or shamed the moment they stop towing the line.
Good programming if you’re looking for a slave.
(what a coincidence…)
Not so good if you’re looking to live a life and have relationships that actually make you feel good.
Which is where I come in.
My life has accelerated like a rocket over this past year (especially the last 3 months), for one reason and one reason alone.
I figured out what I stood for.
And I can help you do the same.
Most dating coaching out there today is about teaching you how to act around women, and sometimes, how to understand them as well.
Important stuff… and required if you want to get laid (which is why I teach it).
But also, the easy stuff… at least, relatively speaking.
The difficult things — the deep work, the changing the entire paradigm of how you view your life, how to have a rock solid frame, and how to attract the women you want…
Well, that’s what I do that’s different.
Anyway, nuff said. If you’re down to resolve that dissonance, sign up here: www.patstedman.com/application
– Pat
