So all these emails got pushed back because of a couple of incidents I was not expecting.
First, I had to run to a wedding way sooner than anticipated. And so my email on work & money was left 30% unfinished.
Second, I got poisoned at said wedding. Which completely took me out of commission the next day.It’s a bit embarrassing to be honest.
I’ve been to plenty of Polish Weddings — which are incredible, 12 hour affairs, filled with copious amounts of food, dancing, and vodka.
Obviously, it’s not uncommon to find yourself drunk.
But I know vodka, and I know my limits. So I pace myself no problem.
The rub at this wedding was a little thing called moonshine.
Someone put a bottle of it on the table. And the Poles proceeded to have me do shots with them.
The first one wasn’t a big deal.
But the next two happened in pretty fast succession.
Followed by another three over the next hour.
Before I knew it, I was delirious. It wasn’t you’re usual “whoa I need to slow down” feeling, it was a sudden complete feeling of collapse.
Now, I have no idea what was in this moonshine. It was a legit homebrew (dark brown, tasted a little like cloves).
The alcohol had to be pushing past 60% though, and was very impure. My body was just saying no.
So long story short (since I can’t remember much) I passed out in the woods… and when I was found 5AM the next day, I had no clue how it happened, and felt like I had been drugged.
I went back to sleep at home, and was still inebriated at 4PM the next day when I woke up.
And now I have to go to the bride and groom’s barbecue… where I will inevitably be known as the American who passed out in the woods.
It could be a very humiliating experience.
But will it be?
Nah. Cause I’m going to laugh it off.
As you should do when you ask out a woman, things don’t go the way you want, and you happen to see her again later.
Most people have the impulse to be awkward in these situations.
To close up, and pretend the whole thing didn’t happen.
I think this is a mistake.
Everyone can feel the awkward energy, and it just looks like you took the rejection personally.
Better to either be warm, friendly as if it didn’t happen… or to be warm, friendly and acknowledge the rejection lightly.
There are many different styles here… but the point is simple:
Don’t make a big deal about it.
Cause here’s what tends to happen…
First, everything is pleasant for everyone around. She doesn’t feel awkward or “bad” she rejected you.
(There is nothing attractive EVER about a guy who feels scorned, and brings his pity to the party)
And second… based on how unfazed you are, she might start to change her mind.(That’s the power of confidence)
So go take some risks, and make some stories.
And if you want some encouragement and perspective along the way?
Work with me: www.patstedman.com/application
I may not know how to drink moonshine, but I do know women… and the minds of the men who want them.
– Pat
