“People afraid of the next level idealize the one beyond it.”
I tweeted this out the other day, but it was vague, and I think went over most people’s heads… so let’s explore it more here.
One thing I’ve noticed is that most people when confronted with a problem do NOT try to solve it.
Instead, they fantasize.
Some look backwards (idealize the past).
Others think beyond the next steps into the distant future.
Which orientation depends somewhat on disposition. (Conservatives and sensors tend to be more past-oriented than progressives and intuitives.)
But people use both filters, and they use them for things beyond politics.
Such as ignoring a looming barrier in front of them.
For example:
One thing I run into occasionally when helping guys is that I realize they are NOT enough “red pill” aware.
Yes, you heard that correctly. Some guys do not fundamentally understand the biological impulses of women, and what women are capable of doing to men.
They are, in a very real way, in denial… or naive.
Because of my spats with the RP community, however, many of these men are drawn to me. They see me as a defense — a rationalization of their views on women.
This is a WRONG interpretation of my work, and I find it somewhat ironic that they force me to tack in a very RP direction in our conversations.
It’s enough to make me wonder at times how much I can really do for them.
Do guys NEED to get burned before they can avoid red flags and stop self-defeating behavior?
You might wonder where I’m going with this, but it’s really quite simple.
These men want to have a healthy relationship with women, without power dynamics, but they don’t want to transcend the basic male impulse to pedestalize.
They want to skip necessary work.
They are aiming at something two steps beyond them without acknowledging the first step: FRAME CONTROL.
Like Stephen Covey said about relationships: codependent is bad, independent is better, and INTERdependent is where you want to be…
But interdependence requires you to become independent first.
You just can’t avoid it.
“Blue-pill” guys imagine they are moving towards a perfect union, but they never establish the frame. Thus they lose their vision — which exists, but is beyond their current capacity — before they start.It’s a lesson we all must internalize.
If you go too far ahead without doing the work before, you’ll have to eventually go backwards.
Or you’ll get stuck.
We’ve experienced that error culturally: the “shift” everyone is talking about is the process of, after going “backwards” for awhile, pushing forward again… now with an emphasis on the spiritual work we missed.
Indeed, I look at the Red Pill community as no different than hardcore Enlightenment fans who are so focused on what they’ve gotten right they’ve blinded themselves to everything they’ve missed. Circular-jerk logic.
(FYI a great way to tell someone is out of touch with the current zeitgeist is to hear them larp about “rationalism.” It’s a clear sign they don’t get it.)
With women though, so we don’t get too tangential, it means you can’t get a high-conscious relationship without embracing the lower-consciousness aspects of yourself and the women you become intimate with.
And no degree of idealizing will change that.
So, in other (crass) words, until you understand your “twin flame” has the urge in her crotch to cuck you with the attractive musician she met at the cafe, you won’t have a high-conscious relationship.
You have a ticking time bomb.
This is getting long, so ‘nuff said for now.
Except this:
Consciousness work is my speciality. As is understanding female shadow.
If it’s dark and terrifying, chances are I’ve explored and experienced it… and mined the gold within.
If you’re brave enough to know where to look, you can find it too.
But why waste time and energy when I can be your guide?
You decide.
You know where to go: www.patstedman.com/application
– Pat
