Meet different people, you’ll realize they all like different things.Some are big on sports, others music, a handful ideas.
We all only have a few interests in common.
Food. Sleep. Physical comfort. (Maybe) Sex.
And stories.
Without exception, EVERYBODY is interested in stories.
Stories are simply written into our DNA.
Most of us in the marketing field understand this, as it’s a common facet of copywriting (expect more stories from me in the future as I will use the attention they command to sell you things).
But, they’re also incredibly important in dating — even though they tend to fly below the conscious radar.I have a bunch of examples of this, but I’ll give you one of my best: My wife and I.
We have a pretty ridiculous story, so as to keep this email short, I will give you the abridged version.
Basically, we met at a wedding in Poland that I spontaneously flew out to for the weekend, despite knowing nobody there. I pursued her, and after we both caught the respective tie and bouquet and had to dance in front of everyone, I kissed her.
Months later after being out of contact I returned to Poland, and by chance she was in the same city I was (she did not live in Poland, so very serendipitous). We had a romantic date, and after hooking up we started planning trips all over the world together.
After a few months of this, we became exclusive, ultimately deciding to get married so she could move to the states, as we saw long term potential.
Tell this story to people (especially with all the bells and whistles I didn’t mention) and they “ooh and ahh”. It’s like a movie, especially cause there was a drama in the middle (which I wont tell you about, sorry! 😉
But as much as I was into my wife, I knew something fishy was going on. I knew she liked me, but it wasn’t just that she was falling for me.
She was falling for our STORY.
Understand, the human brain is designed to fall into archetypical dynamics. Think of them as currents in the collective psyche (yes, I am getting this weird on you), that you get caught up in. They take you down a path until they run their course, eventually dropping you off.
My wife and I, for instance, were caught up in one of these archetypical stories: we were two lovers who were separated by distance, who had to bridge a gap to be with each other. The story intoxicated us as much as our own behavior actually did. We were players in a play we became deeply invested in acting out.
The story creation was a form of game.
Understand, this story arc creation happens all over. The one I described above is a common in long distance relationships, especially ones that begin with a couple falling for each other under time-constrained circumstances. But there are all different types of story arcs with their own predicted outcomes.
Powerful stuff to harness, no?
I won’t go deeper into them now, because frankly I have A LOT to break down. But all I know is if tactically you can push you and a girl into an archetypical story line, you can get her absolutely addicted to you.
(Especially if you find out what *her* archetypical story line is. Most girls have a preference in dynamics)
Talk soon,
Pat
PS Buy my texting book, Tackling Texting here, if you want to learn how to use stories better to attract women.
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