Ever had a woman turn you down for sex?
No, I’m not talking about a girl you’ve been trying to hook up with… though of course that happens from time to time.
I’m talking about girls you’ve slept with before, and that you’ve been actively dating.
Not the “conquests,” the one’s you’re committed to.
It sucks, right?
Here you are, giving your body exclusively to them… and they come up with the most lame excuses to turn you down.
The most common?
“I don’t have time right now.”
(Meanwhile, they’re scrolling Instagram looking at cat pictures.)
Feels pretty shitty.
But the crazy thing is… most of the time, they don’t even know they’re doing it.
Their “rejection” is subconscious.
They just don’t feel the “need for your, erm, seed.”
To an extent this part and parcel of all relationships. Familiarity kills desire.
But that doesn’t mean you have to just accept it.
So what to do?
Know your value. If one thing’s changed these days, it’s the abundance of options. You need to remain in your own frame. You need to know that you always have other options.
And you need to remind her of this fact.
Generally subtle is better than direct; the best way to show value is implicitly, by working out, being a social person, etc. But remind her you must, one way or another. Just an FYI: Words don’t mean much compared to actions.
The truth is, whether it’s with sex or not, you always have time. You’re just choosing to use that time elsewhere.
Usually, on stuff not worth it.Which is a big mistake. Because time’s the most valuable thing you have.
Once you lose it, it’s gone.
So, if you want to save time?
Prioritize. Don’t spin your wheels.
And a good way to do that is to buy my get my book Tackling Texting.
For the 4 hours or so it will take you to read it, you’ll save 50x that on turning more numbers into dates. And not just any dates, but good ones.
Who knows. You might even get yourself a relationship as a result.
Oh, and if you’re worried about a sexless one?
Fortunately, there’s a whole chapter on sexting.
Salacious, no? But effective.
– Pat
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