Year: 2016

The Chicken Or The Egg

THE CHICKEN OR THE EGG On June 28th, 1914 Archduke Ferdinand and his wife Sophie were assassinated by a Serbian Nationalist, Gavrilo Princip, in Sarajevo. If you were to ask an average person with basic history knowledge about this event, 99% would tell you this is what “caused World War One.” Perhaps they are right. …

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Girl Game

GIRL GAME Recently I was catching up with a friend who was trying to decide whether or not to “shack up” with a girl he was dating. “She’s so great,” he told me. “But I’m not sure if I’m totally into it. She’s a few years older than me and wants kids soon, and I’m …

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Cognitive Dissonance

Cognitive Dissonance Yesterday my wife lost her job. The day before that I sliced my eye open so badly I spent all day hiding like a vampire from the light. Could hardly write, because to a cut cornea a computer screen is the modern day version of the rack. It was leaking pus all day. …

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Persona: The Second Pillar of Attraction (Part 1)

PERSONA: THE SECOND PILLAR OF ATTRACTION In part two of this series, we discussed preselection — the first pillar of attraction. Now we’re going to address the second pillar (and one most talked about by dating coaches): Persona. Let’s dive in. The Two Halves Of Persona Like preselection, persona is composed of “comfort” aspects and …

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The Three Pillars Of Attraction

THE THREE PILLARS OF ATTRACTION I’ve been often asked, “Pat, if there is ONE thing you need to do to succeed in dating, what is it?” Generally, my go to response is this article. There is no question attraction lives and dies on the strength of a man’s frame. It is the safest and most …

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How To Be A Loser

HOW TO BE A LOSER Everybody wants to be successful. Now, how they define that success might be different. But few people would ever claim that they want to be a loser – even if they’re not willing to put in the effort to change that reality. No, most people tell themselves the same story: …

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The Good Side Of Shame

THE GOOD SIDE OF SHAME It had been 67 days exactly. Probably not the longest of my life, but the longest I could remember. And I was proud. I had been going strong. Temptation – when it reared it’s ugly head (a rare thing as of late) – was beaten back with an iron will. …

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The 2 Types of Men and Women (And What That Means For You)

THE 2 TYPES OF MEN AND WOMEN (AND THE GAMMA MALE AND FEMALE) In the “manosphere,” two main types of men are bandied about frequently. These archetypes are simplistic, but often useful: Alphas and Betas. Many of you may be familiar with them, but for those who aren’t, the concept behind these archetypes is simple. …

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