Men don’t usually talk about plastic surgery. When they consider looks, it’s mostly in the category of fitness. If you have a “meh” feature, or if your face looks a bit weathered — if you’ve got muscle, you look like a man. You’re good. But if there’s one cosmetic area guys tend to be particularly […]
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One of the interesting things about this business is how people’s emotions sabotage them. For instance, had a guy recently reach out for coaching. He just got out of a serious relationship — a girl who in many ways felt like “the one.” We agreed to do the “basic coaching” package together to do a
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A reader writes in: hi pat, I have a hypothetical question for you. well its not hypothetical its about me personally, nothing to do with dating more with character building. Im having a really hard time being happy/finding happiness, its from within yes, i believe but i make others so happy and they love being
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Something occurred the other day with a client, which in fact occurs quite commonly. They have some situation with a girl. Things aren’t good, there are all sorts of problems… (Or maybe things SEEM good, but there are all sorts of “subtle tells” going on under the surface that raise red flags.) Very often it
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As anyone who watches my periscopes knows, I enjoy my wine. It’s a great joy to my life… the diversity of producers, terroir, vintage, varietal, etc. produces endless flavors, and each bottle is a new experience. And yet, wine has its drawbacks… to the extent I am already cutting back on drinking it. Wine is alcohol, and
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This might be a weird one for some of you, but after tweeting this out this morning, thought I’d elaborate: As I get deeper and deeper into energy and intimacy, I’ve started to think more about what it means to be a man, and what it means to be a woman. There is a polarity
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As usual for most mornings, today I woke up, and after some light reading and journaling checked twitter to see what dumb stuff was going on in the world (and what clever takes my mutuals had to say about it). But to my surprise, today in my DMs weren’t questions about some situation with so-and-so’s
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A reader writes in: Hi Pat, I just had a major realization, that I’ve been living (to some extent) within the “frame” of a close male friend. E.g. seeking validation, following his lead in things. #nohomo Have you ever written about this, or have tips for how to build your own frame? — I’ve written about ditching
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A reader the other day asked a very important question: Do you have thoughts on what I can do to improve relationship with my parents? I have always had a strained relationship with them and recently moved out to begin to stay with my friend (I’m never pulling my weight nor living up to potential).
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A reader writes in: “Pat, I went through your masterclass in last few days and have a question. How does one improve their self-esteem or self-worth in an unconscious way? I’m consciously aware that I’m way more valuable than I believe myself to be, but I undersell myself a lot. I unconsciously do that.” —
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