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The Truth About Game

I’m often asked about “girl game” and whether it is something you should be worried about in a woman. My stock reply is that there is nothing wrong with game — indeed, us men enjoy “girl game,” and we fall more for girls who have it. The issue isn’t the game itself, but what a girl’s intention […]

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Girls, Sex, and Vacation

FW Playboy put out an interesting tweet today in response to a question: I don’t have much of a disagreement with the fundamental observation. Women on vacation are far more likely to hook up — anyone disputing this is naive and hasn’t travelled enough. However, WHY they do this is a different question. Women are unconscious creatures,

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What Happens When You Give Up

Short and to the point email for you today. But I want to bring something to your attention, so you can understand “the stakes” so to speak. You may not be where you want to be. But so long as you are focused on moving forward, and you are committed to “overcoming,” you will get there.

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Is Anger Bad?

Don’t need to tell you that if there is any emotion that is shamed and suppressed these days, it’s anger. Doesn’t matter whether it’s coming from mainstream propaganda, or your local new age spirituality group. Anger is an emotion of destruction. It’s entitled. And fundamentally, it’s dangerous. Men in particular who express anger are toxic, and a

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The 3 Stages of Relationship Health

Something I’ve mentioned before, but not directly on here, are the different dynamics you will see in your standard “post-honeymoon” relationship. Obviously the highest tier is the most healthy kind. This is the couple that is warm, affectionate, respectful, and who — if they even have issues — communicate through them relatively calmly, and allow

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The Worst Kind of Nice Guy

It’s funny how it tends to happen like this. But yesterday I had two situations with clients occur — and while the scenarios were different — each had remarkably similar themes. In the case of one of these clients, he had been dating a girl for about a month. Things were going well, they had

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Male Comfort Issues

Interesting exchange occurred the other day between the great Ben Foth and me over what a male comfort issue might look like: As you can see, I already gave my two cents. But I gave the response offhand, and it wasn’t adequate for the topic — so let’s consider it a bit more. Women want commitment on

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Why I “Bully Women”

So it seems as if I touched a nerve. Roobz — a woman who I have been on panels with, and who I have only ever supported — decided to make some comments about my marriage in a public forum. Apparently she felt it was appropriate to raise her opinion among strangers. So I raised the

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